An idea, a thought has been brewing underneath the surface for a couple of days now. Maybe I’m just different from everybody else. But I don’t think it is unusual for a couple in their late twenties to buy a house, even a decent house, considering they don’t have children and they both work.
To me the world is what you make of it. You are the sole controller of your destiny. Your attitude, your decisions. All reflect in the events of your life.
When it comes to money, it’s not about how much you make. It’s how you use it. My husband and I make regular salaries like everyone else, but thru watching every penny, we have been able to afford to purchase our dream home. Should I feel bad that my fellow co-workers live in tiny houses? No, because I know where their money goes. It goes to the local bar among other discretionary expenses.
Please don’t get me wrong; while their lifestyle is not for me, I do respect their right to make their own choices in life, their own priorities. It’s only fair that I deserve the same respect.
I also don’t believe in blaming your circumstances on the government. I come from a family of hard working individuals. My great-grandfather came to the states, learned how to speak English, worked his way through the depression, had a couple of businesses, and owned two homes. It didn’t come on a silver platter. It came from hard work.
While I had the support of friends and family, much of my success in life has come from within. It came from an inner drive to work hard just as my ancestors did.
The thing that upsets me is that lately I seem to feel that some of my friends and family judge me in ways that I feel are completely invalid. I get the feeling that some think my husband and I are completely selfish to devote a year to working our asses off in order to buy a home. I also get the feeling that some people just don’t like it when you’re happy as weird as it might sound.
I’m sorry, I don’t care who you are. Whether you are Brittney Spears or some Joe Blow, all of us have had shitty days. All of us have had those days when you have felt on top of the world. It’s just part of life’s cyclical motion.
And it doesn’t matter how much money you make, whether you can afford a great home or an average home, the real question is, are you truly happy?